Unlearning Human Aspirations

“The function, the very serious function of racism, is distraction” 
– Toni Morrison
They tell us we are apes, so we spend our time hating apes and fighting to be recognised as human.
They tell us we are not human, so we use our energy telling them that we matter, re batho: Motho ke motho ka batho*. Humanity is shared.
They concede, spare us some rights, but still believe in their superiority, in our sub-humanity. 
So we protest, scream and shout, that we are not inferior, that we are equals.
Humans.
We want equality.
But equality to them feels like oppression.
They don’t see our pain, they tell us that we’re delusional. Imagining it. Making things worse.
Truth is-
they don’t see us,
because they don’t want to see us. 
Not because we are invisible.
So, here you are.
confronted again with dehumanisation- what do you do?
Stop!
Stop looking for love from those who know nothing but hatred
Stop looking for acceptance from those who’ve instilled in you a deep self-hatred
Those who have set the standards for what is considered human/humanity/humaneness, have spent the last few centuries, showing us their humanity through slavery, genocide, settler colonialism, ethnocide, ecocide.
Destroying everything, anything.
Is this the humanity you seek?
The humanity you’ve been so preoccupied with, you forgot you
You lost yourself, tearing yourself apart
Stop getting distracted.
They are not worth your energy
Not worth your time
Not worth your mental health
Choose to heal the scars that have made you a slave to begging for the love of an abusive hateful master.
Unlearn self-hatred, mental slavery
Unlearn the aspiration to be human
Choose selflove
Choose black love
Choose you!
Heal your wounded soul

*Sesotho words elucidating the meaning of Ubuntu, an African humanist Philosophy: the words in their crudest sense mean: We are people. A person is a person because of other people. Thus to be human, there has to be a mutual recognition of each other’s humanity. 

11 Comments Add yours

  1. Tobenna says:

    “Stop looking for acceptance from those who’ve instilled in you a deep self-hatred.” Wow, I battled with self-love for a long time, so I really felt this line. This piece is truly wonderful

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    1. Thank you🍀 it means the world to me, to hear that my work resonates with people

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  2. kelley says:

    This is perfect. So well-written, sis.

    Like

    1. Thank you, I love your blog too!

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  3. eddaz says:

    I love your words, they are strong and direct. Why look for love where you can’t find it, it’s like chasing a shadow. I’ve been waiting to see or hear this words which should really be out there some will share. Thanks for writing 💞

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    1. Thank you for reading💚🍃💛

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      1. eddaz says:

        It’s my pleasure 😊

        Like

  4. MikiAshanti says:

    This is amazing!

    Like

  5. K E Garland says:

    A couple of years ago I decided to stop trying to convince white people that white people are racist. I’ve been liberated ever since.

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