Overcoming Subversive Violence a Lesson in Singing to the Moon

It took me falling in love to learn how truly broken I was.  You never know how many messages about loving wrong are ingested from the toxic relationships you grow up seeing, until you start performing that toxicity yourself.  I grew up around violence. Physical and Verbal. It was there barefaced, omnipresent. I remember swearing…

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Body Positivity, a Cyclical Process: because yesterday, I still cried.

“no one can define who you are without your permission”- @anisahamat_ (IG). For years, I have internalised so many harmful lessons, unlearning them is taking just as long. From family, I learnt that I was too dark, too weird, the ugly smart one, derogatorily referred to as Baartman. From toxic friends, I learnt again that…

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Unlearning Human Aspirations

“The function, the very serious function of racism, is distraction”  – Toni Morrison They tell us we are apes, so we spend our time hating apes and fighting to be recognised as human. They tell us we are not human, so we use our energy telling them that we matter, re batho: Motho ke motho ka…

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